18 Things I’ve Learned In 18 Years
- Nobody has their life together…FACT.
Stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone is facing their own inner struggles no matter how perfect their lives may appear. We never really understand the difficulties they are definitely dealing with. On the outside, things may appear to be ideal but just know looks can be (very) deceiving.
- Put your camera down
Of course you want to capture the good memories in your life, but most of the time we easily end up fixated on our phones trying to catch the perfect picture; scared about forgetting the little moments. This year has taught me to absorb my surroundings and realise that not everything needs to be physically documented. Some things can have the pleasure of living infinitely in our thoughts.
- Don’t be afraid to speak out
Voice your beliefs even if it means being the odd one out. Don’t hold back your views just to go along with the crowd. BE YOUR OWN PERSON.
- Live in the moment
Stop losing focus on what’s happening today. We’re always thinking about what could have happened and what we could have said or done but forget to stop for a minute and take in what’s happening now in the present.
- Enjoy the little things
No matter our problems we all have much to be grateful for. Appreciate your favourite food or a random conversation with a friendly stranger and learn to find the joy in the little things in life.
- You will be disappointed
Whether that’s failing a test or being let down by a friend. Sometimes (often), things don’t go to plan and we’re left feeling negative over our high expectations. Disappointment is unavoidable but don’t let it stop you from personal growth. It will get better.
- Let go of the things you can’t control
Life is unpredictable. Now i know this seems pretty obvious, but so many of us feel like we know something for sure and then something unexpected happens-turning the world upside down. Within months weeks or days your life could drastically change for the better or worse. Ironically, trying to control what isn’t in your power will only take away the control you do have and lead to feelings of helplessness.
- Roll your eyes at bitter people
Use them as an example of how not to behave.
- You will not be liked by everyone
Many people suffer from the fear of being judged and try to change themselves and people please in order to be liked. The sooner you realise this lesson, the quicker you can move on to focus on bettering yourself for yourself and not for others.
- Don’t be afraid of showing your personality
As cliché as this sounds, it really is something many of us find agonisingly difficult. The truth is that there are people who will absolutely love you for yourself. Just be the little freak that you are and embrace your silliness.
- Value positive energy
Appreciate the good people in your life whether they’re long term friends or just happy acquaintances with happy vibes.
- Procrastination. Will. Kill. You
- Life goes on
No matter what happens in life, it keeps moving forward and you will be okay.
- Conformity is never a good idea
You don’t have to work towards what is seen as the norm in society depending on your “stage” in life. It’s easy to be influenced by the pressure from others telling you what to do, but remember it’s your life and you make your decisions. Be brave to do something different.
- Being an idealist doesn’t always mean being naïve
Keep dreaming and keep working towards your big life goals.
- Real success is showing love and kindness even when no one is looking
- Invest in yourself
Find your passion and inspire yourself with a hobby. Take time to do the things you enjoy which is a serious must for your mental well-being.
- Don’t restrict yourself
You may seem crazy to everyone else and maybe you are! Create goals that scare you and force you to leave your comfort zone. Take calculated risks. This is where new opportunities await.