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Setting highly unrealistic standards for yourself and chronically avoiding failure. In other words, a one way ticket to low self worth and feelings of hopelessness.
Whilst aiming for your best and holding high standards is definitely a positive characteristic, when taking this to the extreme, the perfectionist behavior is crippling and self-destructive.
From a young age, I have always desired everything to be exactly as planned out in my head and if I did not reach the intended quality in my work- it was nothing but a disaster. This would lead to procrastination as a way to avoid failure. I would delay tasks because I didn’t feel I could do my best.
This had continued to follow me throughout the years and was only getting worse, so I decided to make a post on this to consciously make an effort on improving this damaging way of thinking.
To put simply, being a perfectionist sucks the joy from anything you find enjoyable.
I can’t just write a blog post without re-reading it a million times over; then over again. And then critiquing the formation of each and every sentence. Whenever I looked back at my older posts, I would begin to dislike what I was reading and felt the need to delete. This is ultimately the worst way to deal with the situation. How can you do better when you stop yourself from trying completely? Of course, my writing and experience is not at the level it will be next year but the only way for it to improve is to not give up and write relentlessly now.
I can’t even just post a photo on Instagram because the positioning was slightly off and my hand wasn’t placed exactly where I wanted it. This may sound lame…well…it is. What can I say, perfectionism- she’s petty for sure.
There is no doubt that we should all strive to be better versions of ourselves each day. However, we need to keep everything in the right perspective. We are not perfect, so it would be ironic to try and achieve perfect in imperfect condition.
I’m learning to just let go. To stop excessively overthinking and not believing in the quality of whatever I do.
I’m working on being more positive towards myself and not being overly critical. Keep in mind that there is always room for improvement and every day is a new opportunity to enhance yourself little by little.
Be proud of where you’re at right now. Enjoy the process of growth. Try new things each day. Make mistakes.
If you have any tips on letting go of the perfectionist notion, please leave them in the comments!
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