So I’m rewriting this again. This time it’s going to be real. I’m literally writing this as if it’s not even going to be published on here because every time I think of someone reading it I get so uncomfortable and start worrying about making Read More
Author: Leah René
We grow up in a society where relationships are romanticised and it’s almost an expectation that we should at least be working on getting into a relationship in order to find success and happiness. Especially for women, being single is still greatly stigmatised and unfortunately many people Read More
Without a doubt, New York is such a dream destination for millions of people! After living in Queens for a year and a half and spending most of my time in Manhattan I think I’ve grasped a fair deal of what life in New York City is really like. The idea of living here is super dreamy but it’s not cut out for everyone. I put together some reasons you need to be okay with before actually making a full time move to the city.
- EVERYTHING costs SO MUCH more-
It’s an obvious one that any metropolis is going to be expensive but you really don’t realise how much of your income just disappears in the blink of an eye. Literally most of your monthly earnings goes towards rent. Groceries, beauty services, clothing etc… will cost a lot more too.
Of course, if you decide to move to NYC, you usually want to experience as much as you can so expect to spend a lot on going out to dinner several times every week. Even when I brought my own lunch into work I’d usually end up ordering out anyway because I was surrounded by all these amazing culinary options in Midtown- whatever I was craving I could surely find hundreds of places and more. Obviously you don’t have to, but once you get here it’s hard to say no. After a while you end up forgetting how much things should actually cost and find yourself saying something like, “so it’s not normal to pay $9 for a coffee?”
- FOMO is real-
A city where you could never stop exploring and always stumble upon something new. New restaurants, new rooftops, new pop up art galleries, plays, classes and concerts. I have a list of things and places I want to see and do but that list is getting overwhelmingly long. You will have to come to terms that you’ll never get round to everything in NYC and that’s just something I don’t want to accept.
With a population of over 8 million in such small parameters there’s no such thing as personal space. Expect to always be pushed up against people and you gotta keep moving. Don’t ever randomly stop in the middle of the sidewalk. Just don’t do it. If you’re already feeling suffocated by reading that then NYC may not be for you.
- It’s not all Glitz & Glam-
When you think of Breakfast at Tiffany’s or Sex and the City, you’ll create a glamorous and dazzling vision of New York. Don’t get me wrong, this is all still true but there’s another not so stylish side. Like bags of trash lining the sidewalks. What a beautiful sight. Dirty subway stations, the smell of pee and there’s rats too. Lots and lots of rats!
- Life will be super fast paced-
It’s a stimulating city and if you’re not used to it you could face sensory overload. Millions of people are rushing past you. You look in every direction and there’s something different going on. It’s like this day and night. Not only are the people physically on the move but your life in general will be at full speed. You just keep on going!
Despite these reasons some people complain about, I really couldn’t picture myself wanting to live anywhere else right now. It’s definitely a tough city to make it in and it’s never going to be perfect. I soon experienced some really difficult times and expect more challenges to come my way but collectively I’ve had the best time of my life here which makes it all so worth it.
I always wondered when it will hit me that I live in New York but honestly I don’t think it really has. It was times when I was heading back home from work on the over ground 7 train into Queens as the skyline gradually disappears from sight. Or when I’m hanging out with friends and get stuck on the subway after a long night out. I have these little moments where I just stop and realise that I live in New York. Once that moment has passed it feels like a dream all over again, until I remember it’s not.
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We get so comfortable with our current situation; a job, a social circle, the regular weekend plans that when something out of the norm takes place it takes quite an adjustment to adapt to a new level of normalcy. Today, I wanted to talk about Read More
This new year is especially significant for me as it’s the start of a new decade for life in my twenties. I’ve been told that it’s a super exciting time and many people have experienced some of their best days in their twenties. Along with all the good times I also expect failure, doubt, drama and plenty of challenges. It’s a time to make critical decisions and critical mistakes.
We don’t know who we are exactly and that’s what I look forward to. Learning new things, random conversations with people in unlikely places, travelling to far away cities whilst bumping to new music…the books I haven’t yet read, and the talents I have yet to master.
2020 is about seeing with clarity and purpose but also accepting there will be days or even months without knowing what I’m doing.
Clean out your life; tidy your room, your thinking, your social media, the people you associate with and break bad habits.
2020 is about levelling up spiritually, physically, emotionally. Realising what needs to change and doing something about it. Setting boundaries and no longer being used. Being forgiving, staying kind and authentic. Paying close attention to your surroundings and who you allow in your personal space. 2020 is about minding your business.
What I’ll be working on:
- Accepting myself for who I am and where I am right now
I’m young and free, living a life in New York City. This had been my dream for so long and now it’s actually happening. Exactly right now. This is just one phase of my journey and it’s a time I will most likely never relive once I leave. I’m appreciating who I am currently whilst working on bettering myself one step at a time.
- Being brave and confident
Confidence is not about who can be the loudest in the room. Instead, I’m working on developing a sensible level of self assurance and not always second guessing myself. For me it’s about overcoming my insecurities and not allowing them to control me.
- Knowing it’s none of my concern
Not living through the opinions of others. What works for someone else may not work for me. Although I greatly appreciate well intended advice, there isn’t one way of doing things. They don’t know our situation, our thoughts or our feelings or what it’s taken to be where we are today. It’s really none of my concern to worry about any potential judgment.
- Doing the best that I can
Somedays I will give more than others. Other days I won’t have the energy or attitude to do anything and that’s completely fine with me. Not everyday has to be a hustle. We get so caught up comparing ourselves to what everyone else is doing but it’s nice to just stop and focus on everything we have to be grateful for today.
- Understanding that I can choose to start again every single day
What are you excited for in 2020?
The comments are open to share all your powerful intentions!
Venice You charmed me with each and every winding street you took me through, with every glass of wine and with every bridge leading to pretty shops and mesmeric worn out houses. Wondering through the alleyways with no end destination in mind; just observing the Read More
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As of late, I had been feeling very unproductive and highly disorganised. When going through major transitions it gets a little difficult for me to keep a routine and some sort of structure in my life. I often neglect things that are not on my list of “priorities,” whether that’s working out or enjoying my hobbies.
Having moved across the world and pretty much starting again, it’s no wonder that I was in need of a new routine to give me some sense of stability. As exciting as it was moving to New York, it was definitely A LOT of change and adaptation all in such a short space of time. Once arriving in the city, I soon secured a job in Manhattan, integrated with a bunch of new people, making new friends and began getting accustomed to a different way of living.
This was also my first full time job after graduating from college last summer, so I’m still getting used to all the fun and tears of the office. Soon enough my days were morphing into one another and I was left feeling in need of something else.
As much as I loved going to work in NYC each day, I had settled into a procedure where that was all I did Monday through Friday. My job isn’t my passion. I wasn’t going to live my life only on the weekends. Working full time doesn’t allow much room for many other activities during the day and so I realized I needed to change up my pattern to experience a more meaningful and enriching 24 hours.
I now make sure to get a head start by waking up just a couple of hours earlier than usual. This minor tweak allows me a chance to explore the small corners of the city and wander through crowded streets in search of empty bookstores: to read, to write, to create.
I’m beginning to rekindle my groove as I relish this vital time to myself each day to work on my goals. I love delving into personal projects in little coffee shops, surrounded by the buzz of busy people, because in those moments I feel an empowering solitude. In those moments I can reflect on everything I am doing right now and smile; knowing this is just the beginning and the best is yet to come.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the pressure of time or not being exactly where you want to be, begin by making slight adjustments to your day to work on that. Gradually, you will make a huge collective improvement. This year I’m learning to not get so caught up in just the motions of life but to do more of what sets my soul on fire.
I hope you enjoyed this little post today, I definitely have much more to say on this topic so expect a part II.
Have you ever felt a similar way? What helped you to reignite your mojo? Let me know in the comments!
So I’ve been gone–for a while. After many months away from blogging, I’m finally back and better with brand new content on the way. I recently moved from the UK to New York back in December and things have been pretty restless as expected. (More Read More