I’ve always enjoyed reading and watching these “Get To Know Me” tags so I put together some questions I found on Pinterest and gave it a go just for fun. The questions get a little random but I’m sure you’ll definitely learn something new about Read More
This new year is especially significant for me as it’s the start of a new decade for life in my twenties. I’ve been told that it’s a super exciting time and many people have experienced some of their best days in their twenties. Along with Read More
Setting highly unrealistic standards for yourself and chronically avoiding failure. In other words, a one way ticket to low self worth and feelings of hopelessness.
Whilst aiming for your best and holding high standards is definitely a positive characteristic, when taking this to the extreme, the perfectionist behavior is crippling and self-destructive.
From a young age, I have always desired everything to be exactly as planned out in my head and if I did not reach the intended quality in my work- it was nothing but a disaster. This would lead to procrastination as a way to avoid failure. I would delay tasks because I didn’t feel I could do my best.
This had continued to follow me throughout the years and was only getting worse, so I decided to make a post on this to consciously make an effort on improving this damaging way of thinking.
To put simply, being a perfectionist sucks the joy from anything you find enjoyable.
I can’t just write a blog post without re-reading it a million times over; then over again. And then critiquing the formation of each and every sentence. Whenever I looked back at my older posts, I would begin to dislike what I was reading and felt the need to delete. This is ultimately the worst way to deal with the situation. How can you do better when you stop yourself from trying completely? Of course, my writing and experience is not at the level it will be next year but the only way for it to improve is to not give up and write relentlessly now.
I can’t even just post a photo on Instagram because the positioning was slightly off and my hand wasn’t placed exactly where I wanted it. This may sound lame…well…it is. What can I say, perfectionism- she’s petty for sure.
There is no doubt that we should all strive to be better versions of ourselves each day. However, we need to keep everything in the right perspective. We are not perfect, so it would be ironic to try and achieve perfect in imperfect condition.
I’m learning to just let go. To stop excessively overthinking and not believing in the quality of whatever I do.
I’m working on being more positive towards myself and not being overly critical. Keep in mind that there is always room for improvement and every day is a new opportunity to enhance yourself little by little.
Be proud of where you’re at right now. Enjoy the process of growth. Try new things each day. Make mistakes.
If you have any tips on letting go of the perfectionist notion, please leave them in the comments!
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The importance of self-improvement: By evaluating where you are in life in relation to where you would like to be provides the motivation to work towards your goals and develop your current talents. Overall, becoming a better version of yourself leads to improved self esteem. Read More
- Nobody has their life together…FACT.
Stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone is facing their own inner struggles no matter how perfect their lives may appear. We never really understand the difficulties they are definitely dealing with. On the outside, things may appear to be ideal but just know looks can be (very) deceiving.
- Put your camera down
Of course you want to capture the good memories in your life, but most of the time we easily end up fixated on our phones trying to catch the perfect picture; scared about forgetting the little moments. This year has taught me to absorb my surroundings and realise that not everything needs to be physically documented. Some things can have the pleasure of living infinitely in our thoughts.
- Don’t be afraid to speak out
Voice your beliefs even if it means being the odd one out. Don’t hold back your views just to go along with the crowd. BE YOUR OWN PERSON.
- Live in the moment
Stop losing focus on what’s happening today. We’re always thinking about what could have happened and what we could have said or done but forget to stop for a minute and take in what’s happening now in the present.
- Enjoy the little things
No matter our problems we all have much to be grateful for. Appreciate your favourite food or a random conversation with a friendly stranger and learn to find the joy in the little things in life.
- You will be disappointed
Whether that’s failing a test or being let down by a friend. Sometimes (often), things don’t go to plan and we’re left feeling negative over our high expectations. Disappointment is unavoidable but don’t let it stop you from personal growth. It will get better.
- Let go of the things you can’t control
Life is unpredictable. Now i know this seems pretty obvious, but so many of us feel like we know something for sure and then something unexpected happens-turning the world upside down. Within months weeks or days your life could drastically change for the better or worse. Ironically, trying to control what isn’t in your power will only take away the control you do have and lead to feelings of helplessness.
- Roll your eyes at bitter people
Use them as an example of how not to behave.
- You will not be liked by everyone
Many people suffer from the fear of being judged and try to change themselves and people please in order to be liked. The sooner you realise this lesson, the quicker you can move on to focus on bettering yourself for yourself and not for others.
- Don’t be afraid of showing your personality
As cliché as this sounds, it really is something many of us find agonisingly difficult. The truth is that there are people who will absolutely love you for yourself. Just be the little freak that you are and embrace your silliness.
- Value positive energy
Appreciate the good people in your life whether they’re long term friends or just happy acquaintances with happy vibes.
- Procrastination. Will. Kill. You
- Life goes on
No matter what happens in life, it keeps moving forward and you will be okay.
- Conformity is never a good idea
You don’t have to work towards what is seen as the norm in society depending on your “stage” in life. It’s easy to be influenced by the pressure from others telling you what to do, but remember it’s your life and you make your decisions. Be brave to do something different.
- Being an idealist doesn’t always mean being naïve
Keep dreaming and keep working towards your big life goals.
- Real success is showing love and kindness even when no one is looking
- Invest in yourself
Find your passion and inspire yourself with a hobby. Take time to do the things you enjoy which is a serious must for your mental well-being.
- Don’t restrict yourself
You may seem crazy to everyone else and maybe you are! Create goals that scare you and force you to leave your comfort zone. Take calculated risks. This is where new opportunities await.