2020- 5 Intentions I’m Establishing NOW

2020- 5 Intentions I’m Establishing NOW

This new year is especially significant for me as it’s the start of a new decade for life in my twenties. I’ve been told that it’s a super exciting time and many people have experienced some of their best days in their twenties. Along with all the good times I also expect failure, doubt, drama and plenty of challenges. It’s a time to make critical decisions and critical mistakes.

We don’t know who we are exactly and that’s what I look forward to. Learning new things, random conversations with people in unlikely places, travelling to far away cities whilst bumping to new music…the books I haven’t yet read, and the talents I have yet to master.

2020 is about seeing with clarity and purpose but also accepting there will be days or even months without knowing what I’m doing.

Clean out your life; tidy your room, your thinking, your social media, the people you associate with and break bad habits.

2020 is about levelling up spiritually, physically, emotionally. Realising what needs to change and doing something about it. Setting boundaries and no longer being used. Being forgiving, staying kind and authentic. Paying close attention to your surroundings and who you allow in your personal space. 2020 is about minding your business.

What I’ll be working on:

  1. Accepting myself for who I am and where I am right now

I’m young and free, living a life in New York City. This had been my dream for so long and now it’s actually happening. Exactly right now. This is just one phase of my journey and it’s a time I will most likely never relive once I leave. I’m appreciating who I am currently whilst working on bettering myself one step at a time.

  1. Being brave and confident

Confidence is not about who can be the loudest in the room. Instead, I’m working on developing a sensible level of self assurance and not always second guessing myself. For me it’s about overcoming my insecurities and not allowing them to control me.

  1. Knowing it’s none of my concern

Not living through the opinions of others. What works for someone else may not work for me. Although I greatly appreciate well intended advice, there isn’t one way of doing things. They don’t know our situation, our thoughts or our feelings or what it’s taken to be where we are today. It’s really none of my concern to worry about any potential judgment.

  1. Doing the best that I can

Somedays I will give more than others. Other days I won’t have the energy or attitude to do anything and that’s completely fine with me. Not everyday has to be a hustle. We get so caught up comparing ourselves to what everyone else is doing but it’s nice to just stop and focus on everything we have to be grateful for today.

  1. Understanding that I can choose to start again every single day

 

What are you excited for in 2020?

The comments are open to share all your powerful intentions!

-Leah

Perfectionism and Procrastination

Perfectionism and Procrastination

Perfectionism//

Setting highly unrealistic standards for yourself and chronically avoiding failure. In other words, a one way ticket to low self worth and feelings of hopelessness.

Whilst aiming for your best and holding high standards is definitely a positive characteristic, when taking this to the extreme, the perfectionist behavior is crippling and self-destructive.

From a young age, I have always desired everything to be exactly as planned out in my head and if I did not reach the intended quality in my work- it was nothing but a disaster. This would lead to procrastination as a way to avoid failure. I would delay tasks because I didn’t feel I could do my best.

This had continued to follow me throughout the years and was only getting worse, so I decided to make a post on this to consciously make an effort on improving this damaging way of thinking.

To put simply, being a perfectionist sucks the joy from anything you find enjoyable.

I can’t just write a blog post without re-reading it a million times over; then over again. And then critiquing the formation of each and every sentence. Whenever I looked back at my older posts, I would begin to dislike what I was reading and felt the need to delete. This is ultimately the worst way to deal with the situation. How can you do better when you stop yourself from trying completely? Of course, my writing and experience is not at the level it will be next year but the only way for it to improve is to not give up and write relentlessly now.

I can’t even just post a photo on Instagram because the positioning was slightly off and my hand wasn’t placed exactly where I wanted it. This may sound lame…well…it is. What can I say, perfectionism- she’s petty for sure.

There is no doubt that we should all strive to be better versions of ourselves each day. However, we need to keep everything in the right perspective. We are not perfect, so it would be ironic to try and achieve perfect in imperfect condition.

I’m learning to just let go. To stop excessively overthinking and not believing in the quality of whatever I do.

I’m working on being more positive towards myself and not being overly critical. Keep in mind that there is always room for improvement and every day is a new opportunity to enhance yourself little by little.

Be proud of where you’re at right now. Enjoy the process of growth. Try new things each day. Make mistakes.

 

If you have any tips on letting go of the perfectionist notion, please leave them in the comments!

 

Thanks for stopping by.

Ciao,

Leah XO