Perfectionism and Procrastination

Perfectionism and Procrastination

Perfectionism//

Setting highly unrealistic standards for yourself and chronically avoiding failure. In other words, a one way ticket to low self worth and feelings of hopelessness.

Whilst aiming for your best and holding high standards is definitely a positive characteristic, when taking this to the extreme, the perfectionist behavior is crippling and self-destructive.

From a young age, I have always desired everything to be exactly as planned out in my head and if I did not reach the intended quality in my work- it was nothing but a disaster. This would lead to procrastination as a way to avoid failure. I would delay tasks because I didn’t feel I could do my best.

This had continued to follow me throughout the years and was only getting worse, so I decided to make a post on this to consciously make an effort on improving this damaging way of thinking.

To put simply, being a perfectionist sucks the joy from anything you find enjoyable.

I can’t just write a blog post without re-reading it a million times over; then over again. And then critiquing the formation of each and every sentence. Whenever I looked back at my older posts, I would begin to dislike what I was reading and felt the need to delete. This is ultimately the worst way to deal with the situation. How can you do better when you stop yourself from trying completely? Of course, my writing and experience is not at the level it will be next year but the only way for it to improve is to not give up and write relentlessly now.

I can’t even just post a photo on Instagram because the positioning was slightly off and my hand wasn’t placed exactly where I wanted it. This may sound lame…well…it is. What can I say, perfectionism- she’s petty for sure.

There is no doubt that we should all strive to be better versions of ourselves each day. However, we need to keep everything in the right perspective. We are not perfect, so it would be ironic to try and achieve perfect in imperfect condition.

I’m learning to just let go. To stop excessively overthinking and not believing in the quality of whatever I do.

I’m working on being more positive towards myself and not being overly critical. Keep in mind that there is always room for improvement and every day is a new opportunity to enhance yourself little by little.

Be proud of where you’re at right now. Enjoy the process of growth. Try new things each day. Make mistakes.

 

If you have any tips on letting go of the perfectionist notion, please leave them in the comments!

 

Thanks for stopping by.

Ciao,

Leah XO

 

 

The Healthy Path to Self Improvement

The importance of self-improvement:

By evaluating where you are in life in relation to where you would like to be provides the motivation to work towards your goals and develop your current talents. Overall, becoming a better version of yourself leads to improved self esteem.  Not only do you improve your own body and mind, your relationships with others are also enhanced as you make improvements on personality traits and mental/physical health. 

On the other hand, It is crucial to realise that  self improvement is a journey and that we always have something to work on. When taking an unbalanced view, it can lead to self destruction where one creates ideals of perfection, striving for the unattainable. This is the pitfall of self improvement if it becomes an obsession.

Here are some tips for a healthy self improvement journey:

1. Start Small-

When i want to start again and make changes, I get super excited and overly eager to do everything all at once and then after the first day I’ve lost my motivation to improve, thinking it’s not possible. Being realistic is necessary as working on one thing at a time will be manageable to achieve in our non stop lives. By making minor changes in your life will encourage you to make another minor improvement which will eventually have a greater collective effect. 

2. Write down specific but not measurable goals-

By putting down a date and time period for achieving goals can lead to disappointment if we don’t meet the goal. As I already said, self improvement is a journey and we can better ourselves each day. There is no finish line or stop sign to end self improvement as there is always something we can work on within ourselves.

3. Compare yourself to who you were before and not to someone else- 

It’s in the name. SELF improvement is about focusing on enhancing yourself. So why would you make comparisons to where someone else is at on their path. If you are better than the person you were yesterday then that’s exactly where you should be and you’re heading in the right direction!

I’d love to read some of your tips on this topic so feel free to share them in the comments 😊

Thanks for stopping by,

Ciao, Leah ⚡️